Page 17 - Masala Lite Issue 163 July 2024

RACHNA SINGHSACHAKUL
Entrepreneur, Mother of Three

Philosophy:
It is crucial to create a supportive and affirming space where children can freely express
themselves. By challenging stereotypes, embracing individuality, and promoting
inclusivity, we help our children develop into confident individuals who are ready to
explore their passions and preferences – regardless of whether they are traditionally
characterised as masculine or feminine.

Gender Norms are Manmade and Can Be Changed

Here are three instances where I had the chance to stand by my son’s individual
passions and preferences, despite facing external judgments and my own internal
conflicts rooted in gender norms:

1. Wearing Pink: When my son was younger, he insisted on wearing pink. I paused.
Pink – a colour often confined by gender stereotypes. Then, it hit me: why should
a colour define his identity? Encouraging him to flaunt that pink shirt wasn’t
just about fashion; it was a bold statement about embracing and celebrating
individuality while smashing outdated norms. Seeing him rock pink taught
me that real confidence means letting him shine as himself, unapologetically.
Embracing pink with him was a small act with a big message: let him shine in
his true colours, boldly and joyfully!
2. Having a Kitchen Set: When my son was happily engaged with a kitchen play
set, someone remarked that such toys are typically considered for girls. Initially,
I felt a mix of surprise and concern about how this comment might affect my
son’s enjoyment. However, instead of addressing the remark directly with the
person, I focused on my son’s reaction and feelings. I wanted to ensure that he
felt supported and valued in his choice of play. So, I affirmed his interest in the
kitchen set by expressing my delight in seeing him enjoy himself, without letting
societal stereotypes dictate what he should or shouldn’t play with.
3. Using Gender-Neutral Terminology: Using gender-neutral language has been
instrumental in strengthening my bond with my children. For instance, instead
of labelling activities or objects as “for boys” or “for girls,” I’ve adopted phrases
like “for kids” or “for everyone.” This shift encourages inclusivity and allows my
children to feel that their interests and choices are valid regardless of gender.
It also promotes open discussions about why certain things are traditionally
associated with specific genders, helping my children develop critical thinking
skills and empathy towards others who may face similar challenges.

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