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lanning a wedding is definitely a stressful

experience. Balancing the cheque book
Pwith the limitless options of entertaining,
scheduling and rescheduling with countless
vendors can be a little overwhelming, especially
if both the bride and groom-to-be are working
full-time. Additionally, anticipating the move to
your new family and home can also be just as
challenging as it is exciting. If you are relocating
to a new country, as is increasingly the case,
then amidst all this chaos comes visa and permit
applications. When you go through this, your
routine, priorities and deadlines change. Yet, do
I dare say, that the real adjustment or change to
your life comes after the wedding?

After the wedding is when marriage really
begins. It is when life puts your relationship, “ I see marriage as a
expectations, negotiation skills and attitude rollercoaster ride.
to the test. After all, there is no deadline for
this lifelong journey (well, maybe except actual Everyone wants to get
death), and it all won’t be over in a few days. on it, but no one is really
Several members of the Thai-Desi community
share their experiences shortly after their prepared for the ups and
wedding, as well as tips and tricks on how they downs that come.
managed to adjust to their situations. — HARPREM DOO WA “

Household Responsibilities

There is no rulebook anymore. With two-income households on the rise, there is a blurring of
lines between traditional gender roles, which has led to a change in the way decisions are made
between families and couples.

HARPREM DOOWA

Married for four years, lives in Bangkok
“I see marriage as a rollercoaster ride. Everyone wants to get on it but no
one is really prepared for the ups and downs that come. We are living in
a world where there is more equality. Roles and responsibilities are more
shared and there will always be agreements and disagreements. If the
foundation of your marriage is strong, you will walk off the ride together
remembering that you had a hell of a good time.”

Tips and Tricks:
• Talk everything out. If you disagree with your partner, do it in private and
show a united front in public.
• Work on the small gestures like helping your wife cook and clean the kitchen.
She will appreciate it, especially if these are chores men don’t
traditionally perform.

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