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MARRIA GE MA TTERS

AZIZ GILANI
Married for two months, lives in Bangkok

“You have a roommate for life, so you have no choice but to get used to
each other’s habits — good or bad. My room has become organised and
very feminine. You fight differently too and the way I plan everything

has changed. Before, my plan was just for myself, but now our decisions
revolve around what both of us want to do. Every day!”

Tips and Tricks:
• Compromise. Our entire bedroom is hers but the remote control is
mine, and that is all I really need. She is the room manager and I am the
TV manager.
• Find a middle ground. For instance, I wanted to eat something in
particular today and my wife had a craving for something else, so we
went to a restaurant that had both. This may sound simple, but after
marriage you have to consider another person’s viewpoint on every
little thing — it definitely is a change!

The takeaway:

Marriage is a ritual and a journey that has been passed down from
generation to generation. It is not uncommon, so what’s the fuss?
Why highlight the changes and the tips and tricks that follow?
Older members of society may think that the millennials have it
quite easy compared to their time. This is true to an extent. For
the most part, we choose our own partners, consent to the time
and date of the wedding, and retain our jobs and our friends, all of
which help smoothen the transition.

However, many of us are getting married later on. Thus, our

mindsets are more fixed; we are more vocal, and perhaps less

flexible because we know what we want and why we want it.
Our priorities are also different — we may not want to put our
husbands and wives first, but on equal platforms with our jobs,

friends, and independence. Some of us may even question why
we need to get married and every step associated with it. Lastly,
as the planet is becoming more globalised, our adjustments are
becoming international! It’s a different world, like it or not.

By shedding some light on several changes marriage made
to a few lives, maybe those who are newly married or about
to take the plunge will see that others are also compromising,
adapting, and changing — for the better. This should encourage
those who are planning their weddings to focus on what comes
after. According to the men and women who gave us a glimpse
of the beginning of their marriage, what comes after the
compromising, negotiating, prioritising and adapting is deeper
love, understanding, kindness and commitment. Now, isn’t that
more beautiful than a wonderful wedding?

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